Friday, November 28, 2008

An Angel On My Street

I met an angel the other day. At least I think so. She is a woman in my neighborhood that became aware of some specific family needs in another town in the valley and thought she would do something about it this month. The husband has less than adequate employment, the pantry is rather bare, and the upcoming holidays look somewhat bleak. She is no different than so many others I have met through the years, but I was made glad because her requests helped me let go of things I really don’t need or want and yet haven’t had the courage to share. (We cling so tightly to our stuff.)

The requests were small: gently worn clothing, unused canned goods, coats that were gathering dust, and toys that were no longer really being used. I knew I had plenty of each of those items stashed in my home, each needing release to bless others’ lives.

As I went through my house, pulling cans from the pantry, finding two pairs of shoes that really don’t work for me, a couple of tops that are warm but don’t fit, and purging the unused games, I felt "cleaned out" and "freshened." We keep so much we really, really don’t need, sometimes because we worry another won’t appreciate our treasures enough to make the sharing worthwhile.

May I suggest that you, too, take just a few minutes this week and find the "angel" items in your house. Start at your front door and work your way around the house with a sturdy bag or box in hand. Gather items from the front closet, the linen shelves, the bedroom drawers, and the storage room stacks. As you fill one bag, tie it off (double knots keep you from cheating), get another bag, and keep on looking for the "angel" items. If you use boxes, tape them shut as you fill them to resist peeking again and being indecisive.

Purge your jewelry, clothes, coats, and mittens. Find unneeded games, books, videos, and music. Let go of your over-abundance wherever you find it in the house, the garage, or the yard. Gather these items, bag them up, and share them generously.

Yes, give, give, give! It won’t cost you a thing, it won’t even dampen your style. In fact, it will help you get organized and ready for the influx of gifts which are surely to come your way soon.

You might even want to get your kids involved, maybe your spouse, and definitely the friend down the street that could lose a few items from her personal stockpile. This is the season to "release" first before we go about gathering all over again. You and I can both gain from losing a few pounds of unneeded possessions.

So look for those "angel" items, gather them in boxes or bags, and then find an angel who is collecting items to share with others. Yes, find the order which returns to your home and soul when you have stripped yourself of what you don’t really need just it time to make another’s holiday bright with anticipation. Happy Giving!

3 comments:

Mommymita said...

I like this idea and I know it makes perfect sense.

I am feeling a bit troubled today though. I can't understand why when we already have everything we need there is "need" to accumulate more just because it is Christmas. I am sensing a bit of panic because I know there are so many things my children would enjoy but I can't stomach the thought of bringing more toys into our home. At the same time though I don't want to see disappointed faces Christmas morning.

Would I be a cruel parent if I only planned one or two gifts for each child and then suggested they go through their toys and pick out at least one of their own that they could pass on to those in need? I know that wouldn't be easy because even us adults struggle in letting our things go.

How do we effectively change traditions without too much disruption to our young family? How do we do so when I know my children will be comparing themselves to all the other children in our neighborhood as well? Are children mature enough to understand that stuff is just stuff and there is greater joy in giving?

Marie Ricks said...

Dear Friend: I have learned the best way to nurture children in this process is to have them collect up their old, less-used toys for giving before they receive more on Christmas morning. Begin talking immediately about the joy of sharing and that you are planning to collect some of your clothes, tools, books, and "toys" for sharing with a family in need. Talk about it for a week and see how quickly they will begin to say, "Mom maybe we could give my ... to the poor people, too." Then set aside next Monday evening for a full cleanout of your toys, gathering them all and letting the children choose which ones they would like to give. Let them be involved in wrapping them up, making up gift tags, and delivering the gifts as appropriate later in the month (anonymously, of course, to add to the excitement).

Trim down the amount you give them Christmas morning just a bit this year and continue to simplify each year as you gain momentum to give more and get less. The memories of sharing will soon be more important to them than the memories of getting and as you talk about needs in your area beginning about the first of November next year and begin putting aside your own items to give away, they will also be willing to share. It is a skill that is taught like all other skills, but with additional benefit of joy, joy, joy! Marie

Cindy Beck, author said...

Marie,
Great advice! What a wonderful way to start out the season of giving, by helping those in need.